What comes to mind when you hear the term “safe sex”? Is it the image of a Trojan package filled with colorful condoms? Is it a theory of lack of penetration during the act of sex? While those things certainly have a spot in the safe sex world, the type of safety that I’m referring to with adult online dating has a little different spin. The adult dating sites that openly offer the opportunities for casual sex, no strings attached, and one night stand affairs offer a different kind of safe sex opportunity.
Safe sex in this new domain, in this new age of sexual freedoms, is the ability to have sexual relationships with a “safe” man or woman. This is someone that you are in no danger of falling in love with, and they are in no danger of falling in love with you.
When you are honest about your reasons for adult online dating, especially on sites that do not promote the illusion that they are going to help you find your soul mate, then you can use dating opportunities in all the various fun, kinky, and sexy styles as a way to enhance your own self-growth on the way to finding a permanent or semi-permanent relationship.
You may be in a transitional stage of your life. Maybe you are a student concentrating on college studies and know that a commitment is not in the cards for you right now. Perhaps you are just starting out in the dating world and want to rack in some experiences so that you can figure out what you really want in a relationship, and what you don’t want. Maybe you are coming off of a bad divorce and need some time to lick your wounds and figure out what the heck happened. Or you could be recently widowed, in need of some physical sexual release, but are not emotionally ready for something permanent.
Whatever circumstances bring you to an adult online dating site, rest assured that you can find someone to play with while you figure things out for yourself.
This playmate, your safe sex partner, must be attractive to you and must be challenging enough to physically arouse you. If it’s a no strings attached arrangement then you both know at some level that while you enjoy each other sexually and maybe as friends, there are either major things missing from the other person for you or you are at a stage of life where you choose not to commit to a single person.
Engaging in safe sex, throw away sex, can be a source of reassurance, physical release, affection and sexual experience. This safe sex serves as a way to release some pressure so that your tank doesn’t explode. When played correctly, you will notice that because of your sexual release through casual sex play, you will feel less desperate to latch on to someone that you know in your gut is wrong for you.
After all, you’re getting your rocks off (or ovaries off, as the case may be) so there is not this panicked sense of urgency to find “the One”. You can think more clearly when you are not desperate.
By using casual sex or one night stands to build your power and confidence, safe sex will allow you to be more relaxed, giving you a confident perspective. When someone comes along that you think you want something more with, you’ll be ready to handle it.